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Why Most Resolutions Fail—And How to Keep Becoming Better Anyway

The dawn of a new year always brings with it a quiet (and sometimes not-so-quiet) optimism. across the globe, people vow to start fresh, ditch bad habits, adopt new mindsets, and finally become the version of themselves they’ve been envisioning for years.

Some (myself  included) declare it's time to drop a few pounds. Others commit to learning a new skill, picking up a long-lost hobby, or emulating the qualities of a role model they’ve long admired. There’s something universal in that hope. But also, something all too common in what comes next.

Fast forward 12 months, and for many, that bright beginning ends in quiet regret. The goals were grand, the motivation was real… but life got in the way. We look back and ask: Where did my resolve go? What happened to that energy I had back in January  (or September for us, Ethiopians).

.If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. And you’re not a failure.

Personal development experts often remind us of a simple truth: transformation isn’t about giant leaps—it’s about daily steps. The key is consistency, not intensity. Even if your first few attempts feel clumsy, even if progress is barely visible, what matters is that you keep showing up.

Becoming better than you were yesterday is not a one-time victory. It’s a process—a quiet unfolding that rewards perseverance far more than perfection.

So if your New Year’s resolution is already collecting dust, don't beat yourself up. You haven’t missed the boat. You still have time, space, and energy to keep going.

Stay focused. Stay patient. Take small steps. And trust that something better is unfolding—because it is. With effort, you'll look back at the end of the year and realize: you did become better. Maybe not exactly how you planned, but in ways that matter more.

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